Peace and respect! I am not one to judge another. I do however want to offer some very logic reason not to be a drug dealer and stay out oh the street life. I am not trying to parent or police anyone. I simply wish to influence anyone headed in t e wrong direction and hopefully detour someone who could Make a huge mistake.
•why destroy ones own community for profit? It’s not worth it.
•fast money is not always good money.
•your “boys” will tell on you when they get caught and if they don’t, then those tiny cameras in the many public locations will.
•when the ish hits the fan, you WILL do time ALONE. That bad chick is not comin through cause she moved on to another “baller” and your boys are also locked, dead or free cause they got you dumb behind locked up.
•these rappers are liars! Real criminal don’t BROADcast their dirty deeds.
•IRS is not playin about them taxes.
•blacks always get more time.
•a damn good lawyer is not cheat.
•while you are ballin outta control, a whole case has been built against you and by the time they get you to court you won’t have a chance.
•RICO(racketeer influenced and corrupt organization).
•being a petty hustler is not a path leading to the top, you don’t get to retire.
•many drug dealers don’t live past their mid 30’s
•it’s an overall, miserable existence. They call it “the trap” becuase the brothas really on the block really are trapped.
If you are a hustler than you shouldn’t need to hustle drugs. You better hustle some oils or some soaps. While experiences are good to learn from, the street life is not all it’s cracked up to be. I know rappers love to glorify that ish but check it, if these dudes is are so rich than why would they be in the streets. Do you really think Jay z is risking everything to be on the corner or T.I, king if the south is really
trappin and he rich as hell. That would be as senseless as Barack Obama gangbang. Throwin up the W tellin the White House, please! Think for yourself and be your own king/queen!
I hope all of you are well! How do you feel about raising kids in poverty? I want to share my point of view and hopefully hear from you all!!
As a woman born into a struggling, single parent house I can relate to the many issues that come with poverty. My parent, due to a disability has been on fixed income and will most likely remain there if not for some sort of miracle. My sibling and I were always provided with the basics though the household tended to be full of turmoil. I never understood how people who are already have struggle, choose to have kids like that would make life an easier.
I get it, shit happens! But is there not a thing called responsibility? I understand that many folks hold deep desires to raise children and all of that. I just don’t see the purpose in having them knowing you can’t really enjoy them or provide them With a half way decent life.
Life can get better! But is it not a better idea to be a better established individual prepared for anything that may happen, able to set up funds for them to have a fighting chance, show them the world or at least something other than their backyard, provide them an adequate education and healthcare, an over all good life? That us what I strive for. I also want to take the time to find a man that will be the father of my children and not just the “baby daddy” or worse “that nigga who ain’t do shit yet.”
Many folks, especially blacks, have kids with less progressive folks and wonder why we haven’t quite faired like we would’ve liked to. I believe in black love and black babies. However, I also believe that if we are not smarter and continue settling for less, we deserve to live in ghettos struggling. If you keep doin what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got. We have do want better and do better. Even more important we have to want to do better!
Thanks For Reading,
A. The Blogger
I’m sure this topic will be highly relatable. This topic has no racial barriers. “Bad mothers” are not uncommon in society and tend to be at the root of many mentally unstable individuals.
To me, having kids should be an enriching experience! As far as I am concerned people should have kids when they at a point in life to be able to provide ALL of the essential needs. I never understood how women could get pregnant, have a baby knowing she was not prepared, struggle to raise it and as a result have become bitter in the process. Speaking from experience, I had a disabled mother who could never be satisfied. Took her frustrations out on her kids and attempted to hinder our lives and burden us with her constant bad decisions. My idea always was this. If you know that you are either too sick or to unprepared to have kids, why have them when there is no guarantee that things will be fine especially given your situation? I had to finally step back and allow her to pay the consequences of her own action as a young person. As I told her “you have been this way since before I got here and you you be this way when I leave. I’ve done my best however I will NOT accept your mistreatment for your mistakes.”
Up until a few years ago I allowed her to bring me down. I truly believe her purpose for having us was to have individuals who would assist you forever. I have no problem helping anyway especially my mother, however, I also have a life to live. I used to think the reason she shot my dreams and ambitions out if the sky because she was afraid for me instead it was simply because that did not fit HER plan. I know my situation is unique but many have mothers who abuse them in one way or another, especially those of us born into the struggle.
As an adult I see many struggling mothers taking their frustrations out on their kids wether younger or older. It’s sad because this world of full of rotten people and the one person you should have in your corner is your mother. Not a mother calling you hateful things or hitting you. Not a mother who would allow anyone else to hurt you. I mean after all she is the one who made the conscious decision to bring you into this world. Having have dealt with a bitter and hateful mother, I can see how someone could become a mean person. When you strive to to the best you can and she created this whole big mess in the first place is quite the burden. With mothers like these who needs enemies. I have come to realize that her burdens and misery is not my burdens and misery. I have to live for me. It’s not fair to be confined to your mothers house when you don’t live peacefully together no matter what the circumstance is if she says you are the source of her misfortune or worthless, etc. no one is worth being miserable for, not even a mother. Mother who truly love you think before they call you something nasty or raise a hand to you or a minor issue. Mothers are generally supposed to be the one you turn to not the one who burn you. And those of you who went through it or are still going through it just keep in mind that as long as you know you have done your best you will be fine. Stay ambitious and focus on success because you success is the best revenge!
Success seems to be a blessing and a curse! BIG said “Mo money, mo problems.” He was right. Especially in the urban community where people tend to have a sense of entitlement . Jealousy and envy reside everywhere as do users, who await as well. It’s common for family and close friends to see fit that they benefit and often times they are much deserving if they took part in positive aspects in your life. Then there are those who just think they are entitled.
Especially in urban communities where many people are struggling, any glimmer of success is enticing, exciting and enriching if approach correctly. People if the entertainment industry experience this a lot. Where people they associated with in the most minimal ways think that they put some type of bit in. These people are usually two faced and looking for a coat tail to lath their grimy paws onto. Most times these people didn’t contribute to your success what so ever yet because you smoked a blunt with them or went to school with then this validates them and that is simply not true.
In your pursuit of success people are trying to attack you and bring you down to their level because they don’t see themselves becoming successful. These people will associate themselves as if they are friends, discreetly attempt to derail your projects and aspirations, will bad mouth I chance they get. Those who progress past this also have to deal with these types bashing their image and just being shady overall.
As soon as these slim buckets get the boot, suddenly you’re not keep it real, you’re ego trippin, you’re selfish, etc. even without fame success or pursuit of is a magnet for shady characters. If you have ever encountered any of these people you know how trifling they can get. These suckers will also be the fist ones checkin for you when they need something or see you doin better than them! Don’t sweat the bullshit because success will always be the best revenge!
Comment below & as always thanks for reading,
A. The Blogger
I first want to thank all of my followers!! I hope this continues to be a positive and unifying experience!! I want to get into a topic that a friend and I had. Are black women too harsh?
For starters, you will never be able to lump everyone together. I am multi-racial and therefore have been exposed to many different types of people, so I have a pretty good perspective on people of different backgrounds. I also want to say that I always try and look at both sides of any issue, so I want to say in advance that none of my topics are meant to offend anyone! However, feel free to comment if you would like to.
Black women compared to women of other backgrounds in particular have a unique circumstance, as do black men. We were striped of our identities straight out of he gate. We are one of the only races of people who cannot determine where exactly our African ancestors came from. Our start here in America was definitely not that great and it has not been all that progressive over all. A trailer park (white ghetto) is a lot different than the projects (black ghetto). Although both have issues. The projects is obviously a whole other ball game and we all know the dangers of such so I am not going to spend a lot of time on that.
There are also a lot of negative portrayals of black people on television( tell a vision) that do not necessarily present us in the best light. Black women in particular tend to be portrayed as loud, ghetto, gold digger, groupie, twerkin big booty shakin, & uncivilized. While I myself have met women of such calibers and was not impressed at all, I know that these women do not represent the masses of black women. I know because I do not obtain these traits although I too am far from perfect.
I observe many black men who get successful and marry a white women, which this is another topic coming soon! I understand that people have preferences and I am multi racial and clearly have no problem with interracial relationships. However, I have a problem with the successful black men who think its all good to bash black women as if they themselves are NOT still black….again another topic for another time.
There are many black women who, due to the way they carry themselves will always be hood with theirs. There are black women who strive for success and there are good diggin black women. Some black women can be too independent. I am not saying a woman can’t do her own thang, okay! However, ladies if you Have a man who WANTS to be the man and is capable of being fully responsible why not make SOME compromise and tone it down a bit. Let him step up and show and prove the man he is. We sometimes have this burning desire to be soo successful that we over look the good men that come along and we turn them away and then later say “girl, it ain’t no good men out here no more.” No, sometimes we over look them or run them off being too independent that “I don’t need a man for ish” mentality.
Well honey you may not need a man but if you want a man and a good one, you need to let him be that while still maintaining your own position without destroying his man hood which will eventually run him off. If you are more successful than your man, push him to be successful. Success generally attracts success so if that’s where you want to be than that should be standard you set forth. And ladies quit being so picky, being selective is fair just try not to be too superficial!
Black women are all beautiful and we have been through a lot of cultural bull ish. If our black men support us instead of down us or concluding that we are the same as the faulty sistas they have dealt with and vice versa, our community will be revitalized! From the hood to high society, I love all of m black peeps. We need to look into ourselves and fix the problems and then be the change we wish to see!!!
Do you fit the social standard of attractive? In society we are met w/ so called standards. You are only attractive if you have a certain look and if you don’t then you are less desirable!
Beautiful women exist in all races, nationalities and body types. I don’t like that so many women have low self esteem issues due to the false portrayals they are bombarded with. The pressure to look good is insurmountable! People continue to go through all sorts of extremes to look a way that just isn’t meant for them. If it weren’t for media, plastic surgeons would not be as popular and sought after.
I am not one to judge human being. I will never go through exactly what you have gone through & vice versa. So I will never feel exactly what you feel. I just see the deception & corruption set forth. I see the way that young women especially are impacted by such falseness. I am also not bashing celebs as try are just doing their jobs, though they surely understand would is happening. I do however want to insure the many women in the world who go through the self doubt or in some cases self hatred.
No need fixing something that isn’t broken. We look the way we do, due to factors such as genes, life style,& diet. Women everywhere deserve to feel beautiful. Ladies, there are many men in the world with all sorts of desires and fantasies. Only once you embrace every part of yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually will you find what you are truly looking for. Please, do not allow these so called standards dictate how you feel about yourself!
As a woman I most definitely understand the pressures to look good. Appealing to others is a natural desires within human kind. With constant images of gorgeous people in the entertainment industry and these images tend to set the “trends” or expectations of ones appearance. Pop culture tends to set a particularly high standard for what it means to be attractive.
Many of us also didn’t experience positive role models and in many cases lacked validation where it actually matters. As a result people seek to feel voids and have a sense of pressure to be accepted and wanted. While most cosmetic surgery procedures are successful but is the individual successful.
All too often people get multiple surgeries trying to fix what they think is wrong. Generally what we think is a flaw really isn’t as bad as we think. The reason it becomes a problem is because someone or something places the idea it ones head that there is something lacking. These events usually happen in our childhoods and are traumatic enough to file itself in our subconscious and nag at us and force us to pick ourselves apart. Unfortunately, many of these people who choose plastic surgery as a solution find that the prior problem arises yet again at some point. And this problem is generally whatever underlying insecurity one may have and its source.
The problem with plastic surgery is that it will not and can not address the REAL problem or reason for such a drastic need to “enhance” or “fix” themselves. The misconception is that it must work because we usually only see people when the swelling has gone done and they see themselves for the first time without any traces of medical happening and they are just beyond excited. Of course its excited initially because its something new. Once again, if there was an insecurity problem will arise to tell you something else is wrong and you need to change it.
Media and entertainment most definitely contribute to such insecurities for many people. Whether it be physical insecurity, financial or otherwise. Everyday we are faced with what seems to be perfect people, with perfect lives, unlimited money and the all around dream. Pretty much any desire and aspiration is placed in front of us with a slight air of inaccessibility. We are sold a false perception which leads to countless people putting themselves through hell to reach an unrealistic standard.
Truth is, everything is not always what it seems. Trust me, if we all had celeb makeovers there would be a shift in self confidence in people. Everyone has flaws, yes, we all have imperfections. We are not meant to be the same. What we may perceive as a flaw may be attractive to someone else. Remember beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. No need to break somethin that ain’t broke!!