Peace and respect! I am not one to judge another. I do however want to offer some very logic reason not to be a drug dealer and stay out oh the street life. I am not trying to parent or police anyone. I simply wish to influence anyone headed in t e wrong direction and hopefully detour someone who could Make a huge mistake.
•why destroy ones own community for profit? It’s not worth it.
•fast money is not always good money.
•your “boys” will tell on you when they get caught and if they don’t, then those tiny cameras in the many public locations will.
•when the ish hits the fan, you WILL do time ALONE. That bad chick is not comin through cause she moved on to another “baller” and your boys are also locked, dead or free cause they got you dumb behind locked up.
•these rappers are liars! Real criminal don’t BROADcast their dirty deeds.
•IRS is not playin about them taxes.
•blacks always get more time.
•a damn good lawyer is not cheat.
•while you are ballin outta control, a whole case has been built against you and by the time they get you to court you won’t have a chance.
•RICO(racketeer influenced and corrupt organization).
•being a petty hustler is not a path leading to the top, you don’t get to retire.
•many drug dealers don’t live past their mid 30’s
•it’s an overall, miserable existence. They call it “the trap” becuase the brothas really on the block really are trapped.
If you are a hustler than you shouldn’t need to hustle drugs. You better hustle some oils or some soaps. While experiences are good to learn from, the street life is not all it’s cracked up to be. I know rappers love to glorify that ish but check it, if these dudes is are so rich than why would they be in the streets. Do you really think Jay z is risking everything to be on the corner or T.I, king if the south is really
trappin and he rich as hell. That would be as senseless as Barack Obama gangbang. Throwin up the W tellin the White House, please! Think for yourself and be your own king/queen!
I hope all of you are well! How do you feel about raising kids in poverty? I want to share my point of view and hopefully hear from you all!!
As a woman born into a struggling, single parent house I can relate to the many issues that come with poverty. My parent, due to a disability has been on fixed income and will most likely remain there if not for some sort of miracle. My sibling and I were always provided with the basics though the household tended to be full of turmoil. I never understood how people who are already have struggle, choose to have kids like that would make life an easier.
I get it, shit happens! But is there not a thing called responsibility? I understand that many folks hold deep desires to raise children and all of that. I just don’t see the purpose in having them knowing you can’t really enjoy them or provide them With a half way decent life.
Life can get better! But is it not a better idea to be a better established individual prepared for anything that may happen, able to set up funds for them to have a fighting chance, show them the world or at least something other than their backyard, provide them an adequate education and healthcare, an over all good life? That us what I strive for. I also want to take the time to find a man that will be the father of my children and not just the “baby daddy” or worse “that nigga who ain’t do shit yet.”
Many folks, especially blacks, have kids with less progressive folks and wonder why we haven’t quite faired like we would’ve liked to. I believe in black love and black babies. However, I also believe that if we are not smarter and continue settling for less, we deserve to live in ghettos struggling. If you keep doin what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got. We have do want better and do better. Even more important we have to want to do better!
Thanks For Reading,
A. The Blogger
I first want to thank all of my followers!! I hope this continues to be a positive and unifying experience!! I want to get into a topic that a friend and I had. Are black women too harsh?
For starters, you will never be able to lump everyone together. I am multi-racial and therefore have been exposed to many different types of people, so I have a pretty good perspective on people of different backgrounds. I also want to say that I always try and look at both sides of any issue, so I want to say in advance that none of my topics are meant to offend anyone! However, feel free to comment if you would like to.
Black women compared to women of other backgrounds in particular have a unique circumstance, as do black men. We were striped of our identities straight out of he gate. We are one of the only races of people who cannot determine where exactly our African ancestors came from. Our start here in America was definitely not that great and it has not been all that progressive over all. A trailer park (white ghetto) is a lot different than the projects (black ghetto). Although both have issues. The projects is obviously a whole other ball game and we all know the dangers of such so I am not going to spend a lot of time on that.
There are also a lot of negative portrayals of black people on television( tell a vision) that do not necessarily present us in the best light. Black women in particular tend to be portrayed as loud, ghetto, gold digger, groupie, twerkin big booty shakin, & uncivilized. While I myself have met women of such calibers and was not impressed at all, I know that these women do not represent the masses of black women. I know because I do not obtain these traits although I too am far from perfect.
I observe many black men who get successful and marry a white women, which this is another topic coming soon! I understand that people have preferences and I am multi racial and clearly have no problem with interracial relationships. However, I have a problem with the successful black men who think its all good to bash black women as if they themselves are NOT still black….again another topic for another time.
There are many black women who, due to the way they carry themselves will always be hood with theirs. There are black women who strive for success and there are good diggin black women. Some black women can be too independent. I am not saying a woman can’t do her own thang, okay! However, ladies if you Have a man who WANTS to be the man and is capable of being fully responsible why not make SOME compromise and tone it down a bit. Let him step up and show and prove the man he is. We sometimes have this burning desire to be soo successful that we over look the good men that come along and we turn them away and then later say “girl, it ain’t no good men out here no more.” No, sometimes we over look them or run them off being too independent that “I don’t need a man for ish” mentality.
Well honey you may not need a man but if you want a man and a good one, you need to let him be that while still maintaining your own position without destroying his man hood which will eventually run him off. If you are more successful than your man, push him to be successful. Success generally attracts success so if that’s where you want to be than that should be standard you set forth. And ladies quit being so picky, being selective is fair just try not to be too superficial!
Black women are all beautiful and we have been through a lot of cultural bull ish. If our black men support us instead of down us or concluding that we are the same as the faulty sistas they have dealt with and vice versa, our community will be revitalized! From the hood to high society, I love all of m black peeps. We need to look into ourselves and fix the problems and then be the change we wish to see!!!
As a woman I most definitely understand the pressures to look good. Appealing to others is a natural desires within human kind. With constant images of gorgeous people in the entertainment industry and these images tend to set the “trends” or expectations of ones appearance. Pop culture tends to set a particularly high standard for what it means to be attractive.
Many of us also didn’t experience positive role models and in many cases lacked validation where it actually matters. As a result people seek to feel voids and have a sense of pressure to be accepted and wanted. While most cosmetic surgery procedures are successful but is the individual successful.
All too often people get multiple surgeries trying to fix what they think is wrong. Generally what we think is a flaw really isn’t as bad as we think. The reason it becomes a problem is because someone or something places the idea it ones head that there is something lacking. These events usually happen in our childhoods and are traumatic enough to file itself in our subconscious and nag at us and force us to pick ourselves apart. Unfortunately, many of these people who choose plastic surgery as a solution find that the prior problem arises yet again at some point. And this problem is generally whatever underlying insecurity one may have and its source.
The problem with plastic surgery is that it will not and can not address the REAL problem or reason for such a drastic need to “enhance” or “fix” themselves. The misconception is that it must work because we usually only see people when the swelling has gone done and they see themselves for the first time without any traces of medical happening and they are just beyond excited. Of course its excited initially because its something new. Once again, if there was an insecurity problem will arise to tell you something else is wrong and you need to change it.
Media and entertainment most definitely contribute to such insecurities for many people. Whether it be physical insecurity, financial or otherwise. Everyday we are faced with what seems to be perfect people, with perfect lives, unlimited money and the all around dream. Pretty much any desire and aspiration is placed in front of us with a slight air of inaccessibility. We are sold a false perception which leads to countless people putting themselves through hell to reach an unrealistic standard.
Truth is, everything is not always what it seems. Trust me, if we all had celeb makeovers there would be a shift in self confidence in people. Everyone has flaws, yes, we all have imperfections. We are not meant to be the same. What we may perceive as a flaw may be attractive to someone else. Remember beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. No need to break somethin that ain’t broke!!
This topic is a deep one. Speaking for America, there is a very high rate of men who dip out on their families whether before the birth or after. This issue is particularly important to me be issue my father was never there.
It’s always much fun to do the do, that sexual healing. This is part of human nature and not you or I can deny such. There is nothing wrong with some passionate intimacy. The problem is when one gets stuck with the responsibility(usually the mother) and the other moves on(usually the father). Don’t get me wrong there are extreme cases where folks are better off not dealing and then the child be explained such circumstances at a later, more appropriate date. We all know I am not referring to these extreme cases but rather the more common dead beat situation.
It is all to common for black men especially to create a child and leave it due to I fidelity or some other issue. I am not here to bash one or the other but instead focus on the casualties of the situation, us, the children.
Growing up without a father introduces automatic feeling of self worth, poor decisions in dating, especially us women because we run around trying to fill a void with all the wrong people who see what we are yearning for and therefore tend to take advantage. Both parents are equally important, it’s just far more common for fathers to leave.
Many men who have grown up without fathers end up in jail, have hostile relationships with their wives, tend to leave their own children behind. You know why? It’s simple, the man responsible for showing these men how to be men through example. Plus, many of these same men despise women having had to deal with what they might perceived to be an angry black woman. That black woman struggling every day to raise them in such stressful conditions.
Honestly, we all have a responsibility to make sure we understand what we are getting into when getting in someone’s bed. I myself seek to make sure my life is prepared for a new edition and until then I am wise with how I ago about my intimate affairs. It takes two to tango so the person I am laying down with needs to have these same ideals. Black mothers are amazing. Black father are to be the leaders and protecters. It is essentially that folks realize that once a child is present in the equation all other issues should be visited in more mature and productive fashions rather than just leaving the innocent ones to deal with a world of trouble.
I would like to hear from you so please leave a comment below!
This is a topic that has been debated many times. Black men and black women continue to have a an on going dissatisfaction towards each other. Until we find some common ground and understanding amongst each other our community will not be able to fully recover and progress.
I have taken the time to observe both sides of this issue. I totally understand where each side is coming from. Both black men and women have their weaknesses. There is no need to get into them since we are all generally clear on the Ideas out there.
Many of us cannot even recall where most of our perceptions actually come from. It is also a know fact that children growing up in impoverished environments are more easily influenced by negativity rather than positivity. For most black children here in American grow up in Single parent households where we have had to struggle and for many our mothers, due to high stress of such a struggle might be determined to be angry and/ or unpleasant black women.
Growing up this way with any other negative environmental elements tends to cause one to view their own people as the associated reason for such unfortunate state of being. When one looks around and they see constant misery and then on tv they are fed other images what seems to be the opposite of their own life style begin building this mislead perceptions.
As black folks, we especially struggle with identity seeing as our true identities were stripped away. So actually we have to create an identity. Often times we wish to associate with what may seem to be more desirable, which is going to be the opposite of what we have seen growing up. This is getting to the root of this issue. Rather than attacking one or the other I seek to go d solutions.
We have to be the change we wan to see in order for our community to progress to its deserving state of greatness. Black life is beautiful with or without the struggle. I hated not having a father but I have met a few black men that would pay down their lives for me as I would do the same. Instead of seeing each other as the problem we have got to find the real sources of our dissatisfaction. As black men get stronger, black women will follow. We all have a piece we definitely need to contribute to this intricate puzzle in order to advance!
I generally go by A. I am of a multicultural background, raised in both the NW and the SW. I am currently a college student pursuing a Bachelors degree in Organizational Leadership. My primary subject is urban culture, which will include my personal commentary on urban issues, events and news. Any information that may be helpful to folks seeking success, health info, and other social related topics. I look forward to this being an enlightening, positive experience and engaging with other intellectual, progressive people.