This topic is a deep one. Speaking for America, there is a very high rate of men who dip out on their families whether before the birth or after. This issue is particularly important to me be issue my father was never there.
It’s always much fun to do the do, that sexual healing. This is part of human nature and not you or I can deny such. There is nothing wrong with some passionate intimacy. The problem is when one gets stuck with the responsibility(usually the mother) and the other moves on(usually the father). Don’t get me wrong there are extreme cases where folks are better off not dealing and then the child be explained such circumstances at a later, more appropriate date. We all know I am not referring to these extreme cases but rather the more common dead beat situation.
It is all to common for black men especially to create a child and leave it due to I fidelity or some other issue. I am not here to bash one or the other but instead focus on the casualties of the situation, us, the children.
Growing up without a father introduces automatic feeling of self worth, poor decisions in dating, especially us women because we run around trying to fill a void with all the wrong people who see what we are yearning for and therefore tend to take advantage. Both parents are equally important, it’s just far more common for fathers to leave.
Many men who have grown up without fathers end up in jail, have hostile relationships with their wives, tend to leave their own children behind. You know why? It’s simple, the man responsible for showing these men how to be men through example. Plus, many of these same men despise women having had to deal with what they might perceived to be an angry black woman. That black woman struggling every day to raise them in such stressful conditions.
Honestly, we all have a responsibility to make sure we understand what we are getting into when getting in someone’s bed. I myself seek to make sure my life is prepared for a new edition and until then I am wise with how I ago about my intimate affairs. It takes two to tango so the person I am laying down with needs to have these same ideals. Black mothers are amazing. Black father are to be the leaders and protecters. It is essentially that folks realize that once a child is present in the equation all other issues should be visited in more mature and productive fashions rather than just leaving the innocent ones to deal with a world of trouble.
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I’m sure you have all heard of a drug called Molly! I think it is a dangerous drug and has the potential to have detrimental impact on ones life. Unlike weed, you can never be sure how you, the individual will be affected by this drug. Molly is a slang term for MDMA or better know ecstasy.
I am not one to judge anyone or shake my finger and say what others can and can’t do. My concern is about the glorification I pop culture and the effect on society. Folks haven’t really heard much until a few you people died in NY at electro zoo or what that event was. Other events have been shut down due to the impact of Molly. I hate to see people with influence promote destruction. I hate even more for people to go out and do what they think celebrities are doing only to the results being less than desirable.
Pop culture has young black men still wanting to be drug dealers, gangsters and players. Got women believing they need to be promiscuous for anyone to want her. I mean the level of deception is sickening. I hope that young people especially will stop trying to be like these false idols and make better decisions. Molly is dangerous and as we see has no real benefit to society. Feel free to comment!
This is a topic that has been debated many times. Black men and black women continue to have a an on going dissatisfaction towards each other. Until we find some common ground and understanding amongst each other our community will not be able to fully recover and progress.
I have taken the time to observe both sides of this issue. I totally understand where each side is coming from. Both black men and women have their weaknesses. There is no need to get into them since we are all generally clear on the Ideas out there.
Many of us cannot even recall where most of our perceptions actually come from. It is also a know fact that children growing up in impoverished environments are more easily influenced by negativity rather than positivity. For most black children here in American grow up in Single parent households where we have had to struggle and for many our mothers, due to high stress of such a struggle might be determined to be angry and/ or unpleasant black women.
Growing up this way with any other negative environmental elements tends to cause one to view their own people as the associated reason for such unfortunate state of being. When one looks around and they see constant misery and then on tv they are fed other images what seems to be the opposite of their own life style begin building this mislead perceptions.
As black folks, we especially struggle with identity seeing as our true identities were stripped away. So actually we have to create an identity. Often times we wish to associate with what may seem to be more desirable, which is going to be the opposite of what we have seen growing up. This is getting to the root of this issue. Rather than attacking one or the other I seek to go d solutions.
We have to be the change we wan to see in order for our community to progress to its deserving state of greatness. Black life is beautiful with or without the struggle. I hated not having a father but I have met a few black men that would pay down their lives for me as I would do the same. Instead of seeing each other as the problem we have got to find the real sources of our dissatisfaction. As black men get stronger, black women will follow. We all have a piece we definitely need to contribute to this intricate puzzle in order to advance!
I generally go by A. I am of a multicultural background, raised in both the NW and the SW. I am currently a college student pursuing a Bachelors degree in Organizational Leadership. My primary subject is urban culture, which will include my personal commentary on urban issues, events and news. Any information that may be helpful to folks seeking success, health info, and other social related topics. I look forward to this being an enlightening, positive experience and engaging with other intellectual, progressive people.