Understanding Black Women

Hello Readers,
I first want to thank all of my followers!! I hope this continues to be a positive and unifying experience!! I want to get into a topic that a friend and I had. Are black women too harsh?
For starters, you will never be able to lump everyone together. I am multi-racial and therefore have been exposed to many different types of people, so I have a pretty good perspective on people of different backgrounds. I also want to say that I always try and look at both sides of any issue, so I want to say in advance that none of my topics are meant to offend anyone! However, feel free to comment if you would like to.
Black women compared to women of other backgrounds in particular have a unique circumstance, as do black men. We were striped of our identities straight out of he gate. We are one of the only races of people who cannot determine where exactly our African ancestors came from. Our start here in America was definitely not that great and it has not been all that progressive over all. A trailer park (white ghetto) is a lot different than the projects (black ghetto). Although both have issues. The projects is obviously a whole other ball game and we all know the dangers of such so I am not going to spend a lot of time on that.
There are also a lot of negative portrayals of black people on television( tell a vision) that do not necessarily present us in the best light. Black women in particular tend to be portrayed as loud, ghetto, gold digger, groupie, twerkin big booty shakin, & uncivilized. While I myself have met women of such calibers and was not impressed at all, I know that these women do not represent the masses of black women. I know because I do not obtain these traits although I too am far from perfect.
I observe many black men who get successful and marry a white women, which this is another topic coming soon! I understand that people have preferences and I am multi racial and clearly have no problem with interracial relationships. However, I have a problem with the successful black men who think its all good to bash black women as if they themselves are NOT still black….again another topic for another time.
There are many black women who, due to the way they carry themselves will always be hood with theirs. There are black women who strive for success and there are good diggin black women. Some black women can be too independent. I am not saying a woman can’t do her own thang, okay! However, ladies if you Have a man who WANTS to be the man and is capable of being fully responsible why not make SOME compromise and tone it down a bit. Let him step up and show and prove the man he is. We sometimes have this burning desire to be soo successful that we over look the good men that come along and we turn them away and then later say “girl, it ain’t no good men out here no more.” No, sometimes we over look them or run them off being too independent that “I don’t need a man for ish” mentality.
Well honey you may not need a man but if you want a man and a good one, you need to let him be that while still maintaining your own position without destroying his man hood which will eventually run him off. If you are more successful than your man, push him to be successful. Success generally attracts success so if that’s where you want to be than that should be standard you set forth. And ladies quit being so picky, being selective is fair just try not to be too superficial!
Black women are all beautiful and we have been through a lot of cultural bull ish. If our black men support us instead of down us or concluding that we are the same as the faulty sistas they have dealt with and vice versa, our community will be revitalized! From the hood to high society, I love all of m black peeps. We need to look into ourselves and fix the problems and then be the change we wish to see!!!

Thanks For Reading,
A.
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Black Men vs. Black Women

Hello All,
This is a topic that has been debated many times. Black men and black women continue to have a an on going dissatisfaction towards each other. Until we find some common ground and understanding amongst each other our community will not be able to fully recover and progress.
I have taken the time to observe both sides of this issue. I totally understand where each side is coming from. Both black men and women have their weaknesses. There is no need to get into them since we are all generally clear on the Ideas out there.
Many of us cannot even recall where most of our perceptions actually come from. It is also a know fact that children growing up in impoverished environments are more easily influenced by negativity rather than positivity. For most black children here in American grow up in Single parent households where we have had to struggle and for many our mothers, due to high stress of such a struggle might be determined to be angry and/ or unpleasant black women.
Growing up this way with any other negative environmental elements tends to cause one to view their own people as the associated reason for such unfortunate state of being. When one looks around and they see constant misery and then on tv they are fed other images what seems to be the opposite of their own life style begin building this mislead perceptions.
As black folks, we especially struggle with identity seeing as our true identities were stripped away. So actually we have to create an identity. Often times we wish to associate with what may seem to be more desirable, which is going to be the opposite of what we have seen growing up. This is getting to the root of this issue. Rather than attacking one or the other I seek to go d solutions.
We have to be the change we wan to see in order for our community to progress to its deserving state of greatness. Black life is beautiful with or without the struggle. I hated not having a father but I have met a few black men that would pay down their lives for me as I would do the same. Instead of seeing each other as the problem we have got to find the real sources of our dissatisfaction. As black men get stronger, black women will follow. We all have a piece we definitely need to contribute to this intricate puzzle in order to advance!

Much love,
A.

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